Court wedding is by far the cheapest type of wedding ceremony in Nigeria and many people are still not aware of it. In this post, I will show you how you can be lawfully wedded with your spouse while you save yourself from unnecessary expenses.
Wedding ceremonies these days are more about showoff than a celebration of love. Some ladies request for expensive engagement rings, proposal, tripe to the Bahamas for honeymoon, a bit extreme don’t you think? Especially considering the pocket of the man you are marrying.
Couples tend to forget that a lavish wedding means more debts after the wedding. The prudent thing to do is to try as much as possible to save for the future, because that love in the early marriage cannot remain if there is no food on the table.
Today, I will advise you on the cheapest wedding ceremony to celebrate so as to save costs.
There are three major types of wedding celebrations in Nigeria.
Three of them are ;
• Marriage under the Act
• Islamic wedding
• Traditional wedding
Islamic wedding or Nikkah is done according to the rites in Islam. It is a colorful ceremony which is preceded the Khitbah or engagement ceremony.
The bride is adorned with beautiful henna and led to her husband to be by the Wali or guardian.
There must be at least two witnesses present at the Nikkah ceremony. The bride price or Mahr is paid to the bride as a symbol of commitment and acceptance of the responsibilities of marriage.
After this, there is a formal celebration informing the general public of the Union, Walima.
Traditional weddings vary in different parts of Nigeria, but most of them have similar ceremonies.
In Delta state, the traditional wedding kicks off with an introduction of the groom to the family of the bride.
It is usually fun filled and interesting. The groom to be is asked to inform his future in laws who in particular he is taking as wife.
Different girls, perhaps cousins and sisters in the house will be paraded first and the groom will reject them and pay a rejection fee for each until his bride arrives.
He is then asked to carry her on his thighs for the remainder of the ceremony. The traditional wedding ceremony is also very interesting but may be a bit extravagant.
The cheapest wedding ceremony to celebrate is marriage under the Act, the Marriage Act.
This wedding ceremony is the best and the cheapest, no wonder they say the good things of life are free.
This type of wedding ceremony ensures that the rights of both parties are upheld when it comes to matters like divorce, or death of a spouse without a will, sharing of property will not be under native law and custom which is mostly unfair.
To have a wedding under the Act, the intending bride and groom must obtain a form from the marriage registry in the jurisdiction where one or both of them reside to indicate their intention to marry.
The form is a NOTICE FORM (form A) which must contain their bio data (name, age, occupation, marital status, and consent for a minor under 21 years).
Their passports must also be submitted and affixed to the form, this form is then posted on the notice board at the registry for 21 days.
It is also entered in the Marriage notice book for inspection. The purpose of this is to ensure that the general public has adequate notice of the intending wedding, because a man who is legally married cannot marry another woman until he is divorced legally.
When the notice has expired, a fee will be paid, more or less a token and another form will be issued to the parties if they have satisfied the requirements which are;
• One of the parties is a resident in the district of the registry.
• That none of the parties are under 21 years of age or without parental consent.
• Neither of the parties is married.
• There are no impediments of consanguinity or affinity. Consanguinity occurs when a man marries his relation by blood.
This is prohibited under the marriage Act. A man cannot marry his sister, mother, cousin, grandmother, or any other female he is related to by blood.
Affinity occurs where a man marries a woman related to his wife by blood. The marriage Act prohibits a man from marrying his wife’s mother, wife’s sister, wife’s cousin or anyone related to his wife by blood.
When these requirements are met, the couple will then swear an affidavit before the registrar and will be reminded the penalties for perjury; lying under oath, which is 2 years imprisonment.
Then another form (FORM D) is issued which is the marriage license. And a date is set for the wedding within 2 months from the time of the licensing. T
he final form is FORM E, the marriage certificate which will be signed by the registrar/officiating minister in the presence of 2 adult witnesses. It is usually in counterparts and is signed and one copy is delivered to the couple within 7 days.
Dear readers, you don’t have to make a million pounds before you marry the love of your life.
If you understand each other, plan towards your future, marry in the registry quietly and save money.
You may also decide to do a bride price paying low key ceremony and have your registry wedding, or for got a church and have a low key reception thereafter.
Lavish wedding ceremony does not guarantee a lasting marriage, but understanding and prudence may help reduce the incidence. Think about it.