Do you have a platonic friend in mind you wish you could convert your relationship into a romantic date. Have you become best of friends and feel the stakes can’t change.
The truth is your friend may differ in opinion. Here is the shocker!
They may not realize, you even have a crush on them. Your platonic friend may feel as deeply passionate as you do and could secretly be wishing you pop that ‘would-you-go-out-with-me question’.
Be that lucky person that would unlock all the romantic passion they have locked up in their ‘heart locket’, waiting for someone to explore. Take a look at this video from youtube to see for yourself….. http://www.youtube.com watch?v=fg-vEkfS4vo
What is your situation? Probably you made a mistake asking for just platonic friendship and now regret that because you want more- a romantic date?
Or you have always wanted more from the beginning, but have been too naive to ask or lack the bravery. For some, like me, it was the scenario of ‘friends since kids’ and as a young man I wanted her as a romantic date.
Like they say “no need to cry over spilled milk”, because I assure you, the next few steps you are about to read have been proven to be the best in progressing platonic friendship into an amorous romantic date.
Your platonic friend certainly is not a bull, and doesn’t have a horn to take hold of, but that bold step you need to take; to talk up that
crush you have and clear your thoughts on how you feel is certainly an uneasy and challenging step to take.
You need to throw caution out the window and take courage to discuss what and how you feel. After all what have you got to loose? There is a possibility that she may just grant your dream desire accepting your request and even if she doesn’t, you have succeeded in planting a seed that will germinate, only if you keep watering your seed with continuous charming and affectionate care.
If your good at showing care, definitely the green lights will come up sooner than you imagine and be very attentive to notice and make your move fast. If this move makes you uncomfortable then try this next one.
If you can’t perfect the direct approach move, then try this. Although it’s tempting to speed up and fast track your new relationship. Instead of making that uncomfortable lightning speed, you may want to slow things down, take you time to get to know each other better.
Go out for some fun-filled casual dates, just hang out at a real nice place. This increases the emotions and gives you both the opportunity to know each other likes, dislikes and needs better and satisfying them becomes a lot easier.
Usually when to strike with this approach seems to be the challenge for many who have tried it. Well, the perfect moment is when you notice that your friend can’t afford to loose you. When even your minute absence is felt more than your presence. When your friend can’t do without seeing you every single day, when your part of their every discussion.
Strike at that point and you won’t be sorry you did. Don’t take No as an answer and never make the mistake of walking away if they insist. Very rarely will they insist, that is if you follow the step process perfectly. In the case your friend insist they do not want what your proposing now, use the next step.
This step involves being prudent or very wise. In this step, you don’t need to waste your time to propose, you simply need wisdom in allowing your desire play out through tactful use of emotions mixed with trickery to take advantage of the weakness of your friend.
Take advantage of their emotional needs. All you need to do is determine your friends emotional weakness and use it against them wisely not allowing them discern your true intentions. This works better when you notice your friend is only scared, but needs you as much as you do.
But it’s only for the wise because there is a risk involved-loosing your best friend, if you don’t use wisdom.
People around you will have different opinions and may advice differently, but its only the view of you and your friends that counts.
Look at their views as an icing on the cake- when it’s not there, it doesn’t stop you from eating the cake even though it’s needed to beautify the cake.
Do you have a rush of feelings for a friend? That you do, doesn’t automatically mean that you are ready to get into a romantic relationship.
That orientation is totally unreal, because, there are different reasons why
people make and become friends with one another. Some friends are drawn to each other by attraction. Loneliness, companionship are also part of the reasons. It mustn’t be romantic.
On some level, you need to explore your attraction before you make a move from platonic to romantic. Having that knowledge will guide your decision and hint you on how to progress in your relationship.
Talk about what you both want from the relationship. Decide on what you both want and how frequently too.
For example, if you both want sex at the start or not, if you both want sex frequently or not, if you both prefer just a casual date for a start and allow emotions play out the rest. It’s very vital to clear all that before romance should begin to avoid hiccups in the new found relationship.
Honesty is the master key when progressing from platonic to romantic
relationship. You need to start up by agreeing to tell the truth to each other in your relationship from the very beginning.
If you’ve been friends for a while and trust each other, you will both have an idea when the other person isn’t being honest. That is an advantage to both of you but if you’re new friends, you may need more time to prove that you trust each other. This is achievable if your intentions are truly genuine.
Conclusively, changing platonic friends into romantic partners is truly possible and achievable. No matter what people may have told you or what you may have read, using these incredible steps outlined has worked for so many people.
If it worked for them, it can also work for you. Get off your high horse, come out from your shells and design your heart desire into a reality.
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