A husband can be defined as a male partner in marriage or as the master of the house in a more Nigerian-friendly definition.
In Nigeria today, the search for the physical representation of the term husband has become herculean in nature as majority of bachelors ripe for marriage are not ready for marriage and the handful that seem ready, are scared of the typicality of majority of the average Nigerian women and they therefore abstain from marriage for the maximum number of time possible.
Marriage in Nigeria today is not considered child’s play as majority of the expenses which are usually gigantic fall on the intending husband mostly and as such, men shy away from marriage until ‘forever’.
Also, majority of women are not helping their case either as their untowardly behavior has succeeded in chasing away potential suitors altogether.
The untowardly behavior of some of these women have also spelled doom for a few good-hearted ones as they also have to persevere more than necessary in their quest for matrimonial partnership. Moreover, family pressure and societal values aren’t making things easier for these ladies too.
If all the above stated is the case, we shall now go on to list out ways in which a well-mannered and behaved lady can get a husband in Nigeria.
This is probably the first thing everyone sees as pass them by across the street, share a sit in the bus, queue with them in a public place. Character.
It cannot be hidden wherever you are. A lady that looks to getting a husband in Nigeria in the nearest future has to make sure her character is of top quality as Nigerian men no longer want unruly daughters of eve masquerading as wives anymore.
Traits such as kindness, politeness, modesty, compassion maturity and resourcefulness have to be evident in you and will go a long way in re-assuring your space in your husband-to-be mind.
So I will advise my dear Nigerian ladies to adjust and start behaving in a much more accepted pattern than they mostly currently do.
This is a particular factor majority of intending husbands take into a lot of consideration. The reason being that the men want to be sure that they are marrying from the right family and a family which has upheld the norms and values of the society in high spirits.
These men also want to know if their supposed wife-to-be will be family minded and not just some crook from the pits of Jupiter who doesn’t have time for a home talk more of kids.
You see, in Nigeria, tradition and culture are two things people don’t joke with especially those who have associated well with their roots and you can trust Nigerians on that.
A substantial part of the people has a deep sense of obligation towards their roots which they don’t take with levity at all.
Moreover, a woman who is traditionally inclined is usually a added bonus anywhere in Nigeria because Nigerian men have a general perception that a woman who knows Nigerian cultures and traditions is the perfect spouse a man can get.
In Nigeria, any man who wants to get married want to be sure of whoever he is getting married to.
Nigerian men want to know if you are capable of waking up at 5.00am in the morning, cater for the children adequately and at almost the same time make sure the whole family is happy and not sulking around like a boy who just lost his first ever birthday present.
A bit much if you ask me, but you can’t blame these men as some women have become lazier than laziness itself.
Religion in Nigeria is a very important thing.
A marriage-ripe bachelor will want to know that his supposed wife-to-be is on the Godly side and has some consciousness of conscience in her to be able to worship and pray to God on a regular basis.
It is generally perceived said that when a woman can take her time and pray fervently to God, then her family is safe.
And with all the above said I hope Nigerian ladies can now see the major reasons Nigerian men are running away from marriage and they can adjust appropriately where necessary.
Wishing you good luck in all your future endeavors.